Hi. This is my first thread. I'm a male, 37 yrs old. Married for 20 years. (Yes I was 17 when I got married) Four boys. Youngest is 13. In 2000, I was in a nasty car wreck. My lumbar was broken in three spots. L3, l4, l5 and s1. I had bleeding that went down into the cauda equina causing clots and damage. I'm bladder and bowel incontinent. I have worn diapers since. Over the years, I have tried probably a hundred kinds. So I'm a good source for diaper brand recommendations. My problem is my wife. I love her and she loves me. She was my very first kiss. The only one I've ever been with.But she hates my diapers. I've never made them an issue. I hide them well. I don't walk around in them uncovered. I deal with them in private. I do not ever include them in our sexual relations. I do however, have to wear them during foreplay. My wife refuses to interact with me down there while diapered. I have explained many times that it is just in case. In fact, I've gone without wearing one and have leaked. Once it was on her! That killed it for a long time. 3 months ago, I had a spine surgery to try cleaning out some scar tissue in my spinal cord. Two weeks later I got a strep b infection in my spine and a Dural sac broke causing the spinal fluid to drain out. I nearly died. I had 3 surgeries in 8 days. Once home, I almost could not change myself. It was very painful. My wife never offered to help. The worst part I think is when an adult diaper commercial comes on, she will make comments about them. Like, "why don't they go get fixed" and other things. I love my wife so much. But hate this part of her. I am not sure what to do. Counseling isn't an option. She won't ever do that. I've tried. Any advice? Maybe from a woman. A wife. Girlfriend? Thank you.
